Tuesday, 27 September 2011


Women are always thrilled by confident men. They love it when a man exudes confidence in whatever he is doing, be it in his appearance, speech or attitude.

  However, a woman can tell when a man is being outwardly arrogant, especially through his  approach. Such attitude is perceived as inferiority complex by the women. When a man act too arrogant or braggish, then the woman suspects he is trying to hide an inadequacy, usually in his sex life.

    Men are egotistical beings. They pride themselves in everything. From their personality to their career, their relationship, family and even sex.

  A man's pride gives  him confidence, it makes him feel complete and real.
You can always tell a man's pride by the way he dresses, speaks,acts  and even eats.
  However, a man's pride may not usually be based on his achievement in life. Sometimes, it is a cover up of his shortcomings. No man wants to feel inferior in the sight of his fellow beings, even if it means lying through his teeth, he just has to keep his head high.

  Such men are outwardly arrogant at first glance. They appear so formidable that they generate so much fear when approached.

  It is often said that a man's pride is measured by his penis. If this is so, why are men with smaller penis more egotistical than those with longer penis or even average?

  Most men have what is called the "small penis syndrome" . This is caused when men perceive that they have smaller penises and are inadequate  in pleasuring a woman in bed.

  Most times, such fear stems  from comparing the penis with others(like they do in the locker rooms) or from watching porn and gawking at those monstrous penis.

  The average penis size of a man is between 14 and 16 centimeters(5.5 and 6.3 inches) long in its erect state and has a circumference of 12 to 13 centimeters (4.7 to 5.1 inches)

  A penis can only be called "micro" when it is shorter than 7 centimeters (2.75 inches) in its erect state.

  Men with such cases usually shy away from sex. They are often occupied with the disparaging glances they might get from their partners in the bedroom.

  Women are often said to size how big a man's  penis is from his  height, weight, waist line, among others. Arrogance is another way of measuring a man's penis. Most men with smaller penis exhibit arrogance in the bedroom and often times, like making out with the lights turned off or in dark places.

  When it's time to perform the action, the fear creeps in. While some may decide to stay mute, others will prefer to ask questions like: "do you like it?" " Is it big enough for you?" ...

  In some extreme cases, the psychological effect of this syndrome can make the penis flaccid which aggravate the situation for the man. Such men often try to enlarge their penis by taking pills or going for surgical operation just to feel real.

  The irony of this is that the big penis is not the ideal for most women. Most women are not worried about the size but the performance of the man in bed. Women enjoy men who know how to bring them to orgasm. Not just once, but multiple orgasms. In fact, having a big penis penetrate into the vagina could be a painful experience for the woman. Sometimes big penis could be scary for a woman and she may not want to indulge in any sexual intercourse with the man. 

  An average woman is only aware of the size of the penis when it is in its erect state. In its flaccid state, women hardly take note of the size of the penis because they are not useful then. But when it's action time, they consciously or unconsciously take note of the size of the penis to whisper to girlfriends  during lunchtime or in the salon.

    However, what a woman is really interested in is how good the penis can swim in her ocean. Can it satisfy her? Can it take her to the point of no retuen? Can it make her scream her lungs out? Women are also irritated when a man keeps emphasizing on the size of the penis. This is why most women see guys with big penis as jerks. They hate the way they blabber about the monstrosity of the penis.
   Each penis, irrespective of its size, can satisfy a woman if and only if the owner knows how to make maximise its use.

  The size doesn't matter, but the performance matters. So stop getting all anxious over nothing  and learn how to make your woman climax in an unforgettable way.

Sunday, 25 September 2011


Hello everyone, welcome to Poetic Sunday.

Every Sunday we share love-inspiring poems right here on Love Couch.

Got some to share with me? Well, send it to my email address:vennysylver@yahoo.com.

If it's good enough, I will publish it. And guess what?

At the end of the month, you...yes You!get to choose your favorite poem of the month. And the winner gets a coooooooool prize!!!

So what are you waiting for? Don't be selfish, tell someone NOW!!!

Meanwhile, enjoy this poem of mine.
Happy Sunday!

            INEBRIATED  LOVE

Tonight he whispered in my ears
I could hear the crickets  chirping noisily
Anticipating the rhythm of the night

Tracing the moonlight curves
He lay me down in the meadow
Soaking my heart with a pool of desire

The stars begin to twinkle
As  each caress bring me closer to the horizon
With a swift embrace, I became lost in the wind

Together we dined and wined
Pulsating with each movement of the clouds
Filling the night with more wine

Gingerly we soared like an eagle
Sated in the fountain of desire
We reveled in the chantings of the night

Lost in the abyss, we lost our sanity
Mocked by the hills and valleys
Shamelessly displaying the untamed souls

In our stupor we discovered another new rhythm
Flowing with the melody of the East wind Baring the night of its darkness

Dance,  we danced
Ride, we rode all night
Till we emptied this vessel of yearning

Of love and lust
Of desire and passion
Of want and need

Oh dawn, why break so early
Knowing the night will never cease to hide
In the shadows of our memory

By Vanessa Sylver ©

A poem with concise appreciation and review by George Nyarvor, a media personnel with  Media Lynx Communiaction Group Limited, Ghana and graduate of the Ghana Institute of Journalism and Michael Thompson,  graduate of the University of Ghana, Legon and the Ghana Institute of Journalism.

Michael Thompson

"Brilliant. Erotic. I would like to call this a ballad, telling a simple love story in a narrative way. These are the first thoughts which gushes through your head like sugar rush. Devoid of any latent implication which I may not have a clue, I think this piece literary tells of a romantic moment between two people in love, with a beautiful night scenery in a meadow.

The writer uses certain features of a hollow, meadow to espouse the scenery well. For instance, words like crickets chirping, twinkle, and moonlight did a good well enough job to place the reader into the scene.

It is a free verse, following no regular rhyme scheme, yet the metaphorical use of pool of desire and similes like eagle added a poetic touch. The couple had yearned for each other so long that they never, literally wanted the day to break, or in its latent meaning, wanted their love affair to end. Finally when it did, there were memories they would carry along with them.

However, such is life…you win some and lose some, and all that lingers are bittersweet memories lurking at the back of one’s mind."

George Nyavor.....

"BEAUTIFULLY SEXY. That's my description of this piece. This is a vers libre (or a free verse) recounting an ecstatic love-making encounter but makes use of celestial imagery, nature and the stages of a night to create a time effect. It reflects some of the follies of youthful love life.

The diction is easy and light but woven to create interest and avoid flatness of tone.

Overall, I think it is a crisply written sensual poem that has been rendered clean by association with the feeling of passionate love (between the characters), honesty and the use appropriate diction."

Monday, 5 September 2011


They say love conquers it all, how true is this? Can love really silence the needs and expectations of family members and loved ones? Can it suppress society demands? Can it shun the basic necessities of our personal being?

Have you ever wondered why some relationships don't get past the second date despite the first date was so romantic? Have you ever wondered  why two perfect beautiful couples suddenly go separate ways even when they seem so happy?

Trust me, it is never intentional but there are just some factors that people tend to overlook or perhaps,  believe that love can conquer it all. While some have survived the storm, others have been drowned. Others however just chicken out. Whichever way, it boils down to the ugly truth that love is never enough to make a stable relationship. While it is the strongest rudiment, it is also the most ignored fact when other factors show up.

These factors if not confronted usually result to misunderstanding which eventually leads to break-ups.

When in love, it's so easy to ignore some salient issues such as career choice, family opinions, social class, etc. This usually occurs in the first date.

At first meeting, we are  attracted to the opposite sex based on our romantic needs.
We are swooned by the strong waves of love and nothing else matters at the moment apart from love. All you want to do is support him/her, you dismiss other priorities in your life but focus in love.

I would like to call this the first stage in a relationship. It is characterized by one's focus on romantic and sexual needs that can be derived from the other partner. One tends to focus on the short-term gains such as sexual gratification, fantasy marriage, emotional support and physical attraction.

When this first stage finally takes a bow, and the curtains drawn, one  begins  to ponder if the audience actually enjoyed the show. Other relevant issues begins to rear up.

Suppose he comes from a very poor background and you are from a rich background, you begin to wonder, what will be the reaction of your family when you bring him/her home. Will they accept him/her like you did or probably knock your head until you regain your senses back?

If you are lucky, your parents could be supportive and lend a helping hand, but do be on the lookout for some insults at the slightest confrontation.

You may decide to be stubborn and go ahead with the relationship. You really don't mind paying the rent and other utility  bills. Then all of a sudden, while hanging out with your girlfriends, they ask you about your man, what is he doing, why is he always hanging out at the salon, where is he taking you this holiday, oh can you bring him over to the new joint(and we all know the man ends up paying for the drinks and chips). Worse, they babble about the exotic places their man has taken them to, show you the lovely presents they bought for them.

You go home feeling so miserable and annoyed especially if you meet him in the sitting room watching football, dishes undone and tap running in the bathroom. You will scream the hell out of him, remind him of how you work your butt off just to take care of the bills. On and on you rant while he looks at you quizzically. And  poor him, he doesn't have a clue of what the problem really is.

You finally succeed in driving him out of the house to a bar and though he hopes to meet you in a lighter mood when he gets back but he will be very devastated when he returns because you will still be sulky. In fact, the "I'm tired of this" mode has just being activated.

The ladies suffer the same. When he goes on social functions and his colleagues keep talking about how their wives help financially or their latest jobs, he keeps mute or excuse himself to use the gents. God help you if you decide to ask for a new trinket or blanket that night. He will definitely remind you of your pathetic state. Even the tears you cry won't help out. Tonight, he is done with the burden of catering for you alone. He needs your support and you just have to start taking care of your demands. He storms out of the house angrily.
After much sobbing and reflection, you wash up, dress up in your best lingerie, hoping that your seduction plan will work because you really need that trinket to show off in the next women's meeting in the church or your neighbourhood.

At the creaking sound of the door, you quickly jump into bed, poise in a seductive way, exposing a bit of some juicy apples, brush your hair one more time to ensure it has that sexy allure, lastly apply Victoria Secret lipstick to give your lips that sweet and juicy taste. You count how many minutes it will take him to get to the bedroom.

Minutes turn to hours, yet no sign of him, no sound either. You keep on waiting until the air-conditioned room suddenly becomes too hot.

In your frustration, you set out to look for him only to find him in the sitting room slumped in couch snoring loudly. And there goes your well-laid plan.

While we wish to fall in love and marry that perfect man or woman of our dreams, one cannot drown social expectations from our loved ones and the society at large.

It is very easy to fall in love and shun society demands but, and this is a big BUT....can you survive the storm in the long run? Can you really not care when you can't visit home during long vacations or take your children to see your parents because you are afraid one of them will snort and tell your children that their parents was a match made in hell?

Can you avoid the nosy neighbor in the supermarket who tells everyone that you are such a disgusting excuse for being a man because your wife works while you lay in bed all day?
Can you ignore the embarrassing looks and whispers of your girlfriends when your man can't pay for their drinks in a bar?

Can you gladly pose with your wretched husband for a classic magazine cover?
Can you still say "I love you" after all these?

It is advisable that before one makes a lifetime commitment, the couple should endeavor that they have the necessary capacity to cushion these social expectations. While romance and all its eccentricities can make you jump into the marriage wagon, be sure that you have enough fuel to keep it burning.

On a more specific basis, love is never enough to make a relationship work or last. One need to be witty as well when making decisions in relationships, especially those leading to marriages.

One has to weigh the pros and cons to ensure that they are on the right track.
It is wiser to end a date before it develops into a real relationship than to grumble and wallow in self-pity in marriage.

Love can only be complete when two individuals decide to stay together, stronger and tougher when the storm blows.

The writer is a graduate of the Nigerian Institute of Journalism in Lagos, a blogger and freelance writer.