tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post8398727036056266010..comments2023-06-03T03:05:13.746-07:00Comments on IN VAY'S DIARY: YOU CHEAT, I CHEATVANESSA OBIOHAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14429076059842474937noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-44533580758208448492012-11-01T01:23:26.532-07:002012-11-01T01:23:26.532-07:00We don;t need to fold our hands and do nothing. Wh...We don;t need to fold our hands and do nothing. What I am saying is that we tend to bury our head in the sand and pretend to communicate about the problem.<br /> <br />Questions<br /> <br />Are we really ready to face the real issue or the cause of the problem or problems?<br /> <br />If we do, do we or are we ready to change or accept the what is?<br /> <br />Do we ask ourselves if we are the root of the problem(s)?<br /> <br />Do we really know how to communicate?<br /> <br />Now, you see, why I don't see any concrete solution to the matter.<br /> <br />But I stand ready to accept it if I were wrong<br /> <br />Good luck in the dreams we all have been dreaming from time immemorial<br />IMAFIhttp://www.familyaffairserotica.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-74758391819323243382012-10-30T12:17:10.157-07:002012-10-30T12:17:10.157-07:00Communication is a broad subject and it's not ...Communication is a broad subject and it's not limited to verbal interactions. Honesty, faithfulness and sincerity all make up communication. VANESSA OBIOHAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429076059842474937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-56392207268417102542012-10-30T08:32:52.123-07:002012-10-30T08:32:52.123-07:00I dont belief we humans are capable of communicati...I dont belief we humans are capable of communicatimg the truth which included change or face reality. Suppose ur man said I cheated because I want the other womam? how would you communicate that?IMAFIhttp://www.familyaffairserotica.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-70857337030375564962012-10-30T08:11:29.760-07:002012-10-30T08:11:29.760-07:00Thanks Kas but I don't think that's d only...Thanks Kas but I don't think that's d only reason people cheat. Sometimes, it just happens...VANESSA OBIOHAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429076059842474937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-8012691007970965632012-10-30T07:57:16.081-07:002012-10-30T07:57:16.081-07:00Nice piece Vanessa....Cheating happens when you do...Nice piece Vanessa....Cheating happens when you don't have enough respect for your partner when you love them for wrong reasons.Kasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-49068780291901212572012-10-30T07:41:37.597-07:002012-10-30T07:41:37.597-07:00You asked some salient questions but I still belie...You asked some salient questions but I still believe that communication is still the best tool to resolve any problem. All questions u raised can't be answered without communication. When you communicate with someone, you are in a way looking for the cause of the problem. Suppose I catch my man cheating on me, I won't just say "hey dear, I forgive u." or "get the hell out of my life, I don't ever want to see you again." <br />Though it might be my first reaction but when I'm calmer, I will go into details. Asking what led to the cheating? Was it something I did wrong?<br />If he sees it as a way of life, then it's left for me to make a choice. Either to continue in the relationship. <br />So dear, I totally disagree with you that communication doesn't solve anything.<br />Can't really say if cheating is natural or some way of life, though some people see it as the latter. Like you rightly said, it has always been there. But does that mean we should fold our hands and do nothing about it?<br />Even if communication may seem like a cliché now, it is still better than silence. I rest my case.VANESSA OBIOHAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429076059842474937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669582221520431985.post-47999517016296618602012-10-30T07:12:23.384-07:002012-10-30T07:12:23.384-07:00Ms VAY Diary
One element still missing in reconc...Ms VAY Diary<br /> <br />One element still missing in reconciliation or stopping the other from cheating is the question: What created the cheating in the first place? No amount of communication (by the way, the word is over used as the cure all), no amount of dinner date,no amount of just talking about it, (talking about what?) or all the psychological mumbo jumbo will resolve the old behavior of cheating.<br /> <br />Does anyone ever asked, why the wife or girlfriend is sleeping with the boss?<br /> <br />Does anyone ever asked the man or woman why they cheat?<br /> <br />Is cheating natural or the way of life in relationship?<br /> <br />How do we define cheating? Is it before we found out or after we decide the act has taken place?<br /> <br />....and more<br /> <br />If you want my honest opinion, here it is: There is no answer. Cheating was there in our past, it is here now, and it will continue in the future....all we do now is nothing but a bunch of exercises to make us all feel good.<br /> <br />I rest my case.<br /> <br /> <br />IMAFIhttp://www.familyaffairserotica.comnoreply@blogger.com